ho ho ho... just finish watching the doll master.... nice show... rating i give 3/5 whahaha.... ho ho ho... i just like drum... just finish another another day of drum class... and is so fun.... whooo... tml ubin expedition with my sec fren... whahaha... sian need to wake up early...going to slp soon.. and my stupid aircon is dripping water...argh....

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> I'd like to address a problem that is so common
> that it seems silly to even mention it.
>
> It's the idea that too often we use our powerful
> minds and emotions to cause ourselves to FAIL with
> women rather than SUCCEED with women.
>
> Fear of women can actually become a HABIT that
> leads to failure.
>
> Let me ask you a question:
>
> Have you ever been in a situation where you saw
> a woman that you wanted to meet, but you didn't go
> over and talk to her?
>
> Duh. Of course... we all have.
>
> This is a UNIVERSAL. We've all been there so many
> times that the question doesn't even need to be asked.
>
> But the question I want to answer is "Why?"
>
> Why is it that when we see a woman that we'd like
> to me we don't just walk over and start talking to
> her?
>
> What is it that we're doing inside of our heads
> that is preventing us from just DOING IT?
>
> Why do we do to prevent ourselves from being
> successful, when it would be SOOOO EASY?
>
> And an even MORE interesting question is:
>
> How do we overcome this self- defeating pattern
> of thought and action?
>
> I have one friend who I've seen get 25 phone numbers
> over the course of a weekend (I saw him get every one
> of them)... and all of them were from women that he
> had met on the spot.
>
> Most of them took less than 5 minutes to get.
>
> Now, I have many OTHER friends that can't even
> ask a woman for her number after they've talked to
> her a HUNDRED TIMES... and they KNOW she's single.
>
> By the way, I have a LOT more of this type of
> friend...
>
> So what the hell is going on here?
>
> Well, like most answers to questions like this
> one, the explanation and solution is both very simple
> and VERY complex.
>
> The short answer is that most of us guys let
> our initial EMOTIONAL REACTIONS and our IMAGINATIONS
> to keep us from taking action.
>
> In other words, we see a woman we'd like to meet,
> we become nervous (for reasons we can't explain logically),
> we feel FEAR, we make all kinds of negative MENTAL
> IMAGES, and we finally just decide that it isn't worth
> it... so we just walk away.
>
> But isn't this CRAZY behavior?
>
> I mean, it doesn't make any sense at all when you
> REALLY reflect and think about it, right?
>
> Doesn't it make sense that we should just REALIZE
> that nothing bad is going to happen, and instantly
> change how we behave towards women?
>
> Now that we KNOW what we do, shouldn't we be able
> to just walk out the door and start meeting women
> RIGHT NOW?
>
> Well, yes... we SHOULD be able to do that.
>
> But like I mentioned, there's an aspect of this
> problem that is very COMPLEX... and therefore not
> as easy to change quickly.
>
> As any dog trainer will tell you, a bad HABIT isn't
> always easy to change. If you've been doing this for
> awhile, then it might take more than just some positive
> thinking to get this handled.
>
> I just read a fascinating book called "Mean Genes"
> awhile back that was written by a couple of evolution
> specialists (Terry Burnham and Jay Phelan).
>
> Inside this book, these guys point out that humans
> are HORRIBLE at assessing risk and return, and that
> they often make horrible decisions for themselves.
>
> But here's the kicker: We all make the SAME risk/return
> mistakes in the SAME situations... and this is most
> likely a GENETIC pre-disposition!
>
> In other words, WE'RE BORN WITH IT.
>
> So you might see a woman that you'd like to talk
> to, then use your imagination to create some painfully
> scary ideas about how you might get rejected (which
> wouldn't happen in a million years) and then you feel
> a wave of fear and nervousness wash over your entire
> body... and you decide it's just not worth it, so you
> walk away.
>
> This is that "automatic bad risk/return system"
> in action.
>
> And often, these poor decisions cause us to say
> to ourselves "Damn it. Why do I keep doing that? I'm a
> such a loser..." and we beat ourselves up even MORE
> over it.
>
> As you know, these can become self-fulfilling
> prophesies and just make themselves BIGGER over time.
>
> So what's the answer?
>
> Well, first you have to BREAK THE HABIT of making
> yourself feel BAD and AFRAID, and LEARN the habit
> of making yourself feel GOOD and OPTIMISTIC.
>
> Remember, you've been doing things the way you
> do them for a long time now, so it might take some
> PRACTICE to be able to do this in the moment every
> time you need to...
>
> Here are some action steps:
>
> 1) Take some time to vividly imagine the BEST possible
> outcome of walking up and talking to a woman that
> you find attractive. Every time you see a woman that
> you'd like to meet, just do this. Try it for a few
> days. Then realize that this BEST outcome is far more
> likely than your WORST idea of what could happen. Read
> that again. Your BEST outcome IS FAR MORE LIKELY than
> your worst.
>
> 2) Make a "realistic" list of the worst things that
> could happen, then decide exactly what you'd do if
> any of them actually did happen. You'll realize that
> you can deal with them and live through it.
>
> 3) Realize that NOT taking the risk to meet a woman
> is actually a BIGGER risk in the LONG RUN of your
> overall life. If you risk NOT meeting her, you'll
> never know what might have happened, and if you let
> it become a habit, it will keep you from realizing
> ALL your dreams in life.
>
> Think about it... in any given situation, YOU have
> the opportunity to make a "free bet": Your bet is
> you walking over and starting a conversation.
>
> Possible loss: Getting turned down.
>
> Possible gain: Use that creative imagination.
>
> You do the math.
>
> This is like going to Las Vegas and having a casino
> say to you "OK, you can bet all day long as much as
> you want. If you win, you keep all the money. If you
> lose, you lose nothing."
>
> Are you with me?
>
> Use this concept to go out and overcome your habit
> of not talking to women. Do it now.

xOOx - 10:56:00 pm


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